Loyalty

People always crave love.  They want that magic feeling,  that "mi amor", "ooh La La". But the other day I was sitting around with some friends of mine,  and it dawned on us that you don't really care for someone unless you have gotten to a point where you've wanted to push them down some steps.

That "eyes wide shut" love is cute at first,  but how have you or would you handle your eyes being wide open? When the euphoria dies and the vessel full of blood and bones next to you starts irking you, what would you do?

I say eff "in love" and in its stead,  give me loyalty. Give me assurance that thick and thin can happen and our partnership will prevail. Maybe I'm wrong but I can survive without the "in love" because that feeling ebbs and tides. When you don't even know whether you even like the person next to you, it is so easy to run. Love done dried up, right!? Focus on this instead: When isht gets tough, do you think your partner can communicate?  Will he be a leader in the home and provide for his family?  Would you trust him w your SSN? Will he put in as much work as you?

A partnership built on trust and support to me is true love. Everybody else can keep "the butterflies".