In the midst of supporting my friend's event at WarmDaddy's in Philly (Woooo Lydia Rene!!!...buy her album on iTUNES...I digress) another friend of mine had an enlightening convo over martinis about the lost art of conversation. I would say over the past 5 years as texting has grown exponentially popular, talking on the phone is rapidly decreasing. We all had those nights especially in high school that when you think back you get all nostalgic.
"You hang up."
"No, you hang up."
"You falling asleep." *cue the giggling*
"I just want to talk to you til I fall asleep."
Awwww. Those were simpler times. A time when misunderstandings were at an all time low because you were not interpreting or assuming the tone of words on a screen because you were actually talking to someone. These teenagers have NO CLUE how to hold a conversation anymore; and it seems like my generation of twenty-something year olds have forgotten where they came from. Now I don't want to toot my horn for being a master of conversation but uhhhh...TOOT TOOOOOT. I have noticed that even with friends there are some that would much rather text you than call you on the phone even when their minutes are free, and if you call them the conversation is very awkward. I can respect that, some people are not phone talkers. BUT in regards to pursuing a romantic relationship with someone strictly texting is UNACCEPTABLE! In the summer of 2010 one of the guys (and I say this loosely) I was "talking" to did not believe in phone conversations. Allllllll he did was text. Text to wake me up. Text before he went to sleep. Text all day and night in between. I was rather suspicious, like do you have a family or something ooorrr are you just not willing to put much energy into getting to know me. There is no way that you can truly get to know someone through text message. I am sorry, I just don't think it is possible. Verbal words must be exchanged when supplemented with dating. He assured that he had no marital affairs to tend to and he was genuinely interested in me, but as I read these words on the screen of my blackberry something in me begged to differ. So I preceded to do what any self-respecting woman would do...I started fucking with him. Every single time he sent me a text I called him, like negro you gonna talk to me. As he kept hitting send I kept hitting call until he got the message...pun intended.
Needless to say, texting is taking away the ability for people to communicate effectively. It has become the lazy form of communication. I understand that sometimes you don't want to talk to someone and you just want to get to the point of a conversation or you just have a question that you need answered rather quickly. The text is perfect for that; but when used for the purpose of getting to know someone you should not be able to view your whole relationship by merely scrolling up and down. We have to do better.
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this is the case with technology period...as much as it brings people together, it really seperates us from relationships, consequences and reality. Everything becomes a fantasy and its much easier to believe someone to be something they are not. To give the image you are something you are not. I don't do texting to talk to someone...i on'y text to remind yo ass who I am after that.....i'm calling and you better answer. but really i can't remember the last time i even did that, i usually call.
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